Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Findom: Inside the World of the Financial Dominatrix




Financial domination, or findom, is an increasingly popular sexual fetish revolving around money and power. In this internet-based world, submissives (subs) are known as cash slaves and pay pigs. The financial dominatrices (dommes) humiliate, manipulate, seduce or even blackmail their willing “fiscal slaves” into sending them money or gifts – most have an Amazon wish list connected to their social media profiles. Who engages in such a fetish? How does a dominatrix build her online persona in order to be successful? Inside the World of the Financial Dominatrix The Documentary Podcast (BBC)



(Video Courtesy: Queen Kristie Youtube Channel)

Monday, May 7, 2018

Shoe Retifism





"To kiss, dearest Saki, thy shoe's pretty tips, is better than kissing another
girl's lips"


Rhubaiyat, Omar Kayyam

The sexual allure of clothing is well documented and Flugel (1930) described clothes as being either a source of sexual arousal or a symbol of genitalia. Shoes became secondary sexual characteristics (Rossi, 1990a/b) and to the shoe fetishist they may need only the shoe, and not the owner, to be completely satisfied. Others may incorporate shoes into their normal coital habits but in the case of a true shoe fetishist (retifist), complete coital satisfaction is impossible unless a shoe is involved. Making love to a shoe is quite a complex procedure and according to Rossi (1990) the retifist works up to an erotic pitch by kissing, licking, gently biting, and caressing their favourite shoe.



To the retifist parts of the shoe represent different parts of the anatomy of the genitalia and smell is important with some retifists inhaling the smell of their favourite shoes. The heel represents the phallus and is an aspect favoured for frottage and masturbation.



Masturbation commonly accompanies real or imagined contact with the shoe (McGuire, Carlisle and Young, 1965). Shoe fetish is not restricted to sight and touch, but also sounds. A reported case history refers to a man who would reach orgasm by following a woman whose shoes creaked (acousticophilia - arousal from sound).



The term retifist (or restifist) for a shoe fetishist was coined by Ivan Bloch and came from French Writer and educator Retif de la Bretonne (1734-1806) (Kunjukrishnan , Pawlak & Varan, 1988). Nicholas Edme Restif wrote under the nome de plume, Restif de la Bretonne. Like his contemporary the Marquis de Sade, Nicholas was a libertine (a promiscuous fellow) who had a strong attraction to shoes. A printer to trade he became a prolific writer with more than 200 books to his credit. He published most of his works himself and despite his output most of his works remain unremarkable. However he wrote about life and contributed considerably to the “personal novel genre" which was later to become very popular in the nineteenth century. His genius was his ability to recount experiences combined with his description of contemporary Pre-Revolution French life. Restif wrote about the lower classes and simple, uneducated peasants in a style which captured their habits and dialects. At the time he was branded a pornographer and his books were removed from the public libraries. More recently his works have been acknowledged as important French 18th century literature. He was preoccupied with women's shoes and wrote a novel entitled Le Pied de Fanchette (Fanchett's foot) in 1769. In his diaries he revealed he was a shoe voyeur, stealer and collector. He also wrote extensively on the subject and became so linked with shoe fetishism he gave his name to a preoccupation with shoes. A century after his death Restif became an inspiration to many writers including Alexande Dumas who wrote Ingenue (1854) which was loosely based on biographic detail of the life of Nicholas Edme Restif.



As a group gay men seem to be the most at ease with shoe fetishism. The belief is since homosexuals men have already come to terms with a momentous social challenge in their sexuality then acceptance of stimuli is no major drama. Retifists usually collect women's shoes and have exquisite taste for elegant style. Their preference covers the seven basic shoe styles described by Rossi (1993) and materials such as leather and furs often influence their choice. Retifists sometimes have a vast number giving names to their favourites . Most appear to have a preference for particular footwear and take their relationship with these shoes, very seriously. Shoes and boots with fur effects that symbolise pubic hair are considered the sexiest types of shoes. Knee high or over the knee type boots with high heels are also very popular. Possession of shoes is important to the retifist and in cases of paraphilia; men may steal the shoes they are attracted to. Kiernan (1917, reported in Rossi, 1990) first described the term kleptolagnia which was used when theft took place when associated with sexual excitement. "Hephephilia" is a term used when there is an uncontrollable urge to steal the objects of specific focus. Many hephephiliacs are ordinary people with no criminal intention other than a compulsion to possess the object of their desire due to a repressed or complicated sex life. Theft from shops is common as is robbery from private property.



According to Rossi (1990b) guesstimates of between .1 to .25 of 1% of the male population are thought to be fetishists or retifists. Taking age and health into consideration this would translate into 1/4 to 1/4 of 1% of the adult male population between the ages of 17-60. The absence of epidemiological information makes it impossible to indicate the number and gender breakdown of shoe fetishists. Although rare, female fetishism has been reported (van Krafft-Ebing 1886; Zavitzianos 1971, Richards1990), authors like Greenacre (1979) argue the frequency of occurrence in women is not as low as was previously thought. Experts consider shoe fetishists (or retifists) to exhibit similar characteristics to foot fetishists but with their primary focus and stimulus firmly on the shoe (John (Anonymous), Chambers & Janzen, 1976).



Foot fetishists experience less difficulty finding a partner to engage their fantasy but retifists are more likely to require the services of a specialist. In the sex industry retifists are referred to as 'bootmen,’ and traditionally boots were often worn by prostitutes affiliated with sadomasochism (Gebhard, 1969). Retifists report higher use of sex services because they find difficulty in trying to convince their partners to comply with their fantasies. The term "bootman" is commonly used within the sex industry to describe retifists. In the majority of cases, shoe fetishism pose no danger to others and individuals pursue their use of the fetish object in private, usually through masturbation. To the submissive foot fetishist the idea of kissing the masters’ feet relishes his physical, psychological and even social inferiority to the dominant.



Most authorities believe a retifists who commit a violent criminal act is not driven solely by the desire to express or satisfy his fetishist urges, although expression of the disorder may be a feature in the crime. Kunjukrishnan, Pawlak, and Varan (1988) reported a case of a retifist who committed indecent assault. The subject was diagnosed with retifism and inadequate personality disorder were made, thereby supporting the view that it was not the fetishism alone that led to the commission of the offence. It is however widely accepted pathological fetishism is rare. van Krafft-Ebing (1886) did note retifism and stealing rarely brought the fetishist in contact with the law (Grubin, Gudjonsson, Gunn and West, 1993). Many retifists keep copious records of their activities all of which adds to their excitement. Shoe snatching, including foot assaults, have been reported around the world. When these cases do come to court however the behaviour is often dismissed as a trivial deviation. Most medical authorities agree such behaviour signifies power and indicates domination. Richard von Krafft-Ebing considered the majority of shoe fetishists were masochists. Wedeck (1963) described this behaviour as someone who would steal shoes from their victim and tear, slash or burn them to attain a sexual climax.



Often collectors of shoes are mistakenly thought to be retifists but unless there is a sexual component to their behaviour then the person is more likely to have an obsessive compulsive disorder.

References
Brame GG, Brame WD & Jacobs J (1996) Different loving: the world of sexual dominance and submission London: Arrow.
Flugel JC 1930 The psychology of clothes International Universities Press: London
Gebhard P 1969 Fetishism and sado-masochism Science and Psychoanalysis 15 71-80
Greenacre (1979)
Grubin D, Gudjonsson G, Gunn J, and West D 1993 Disordered and offensive sexual behaviour In Gunn J. and Taylor PJ (eds) Forensic psychiatry: clinical legal and ethical issues Oxford: Butterworth Heinemann
John (Anonymous) Chambers WM & Janzen WB 1976 Case reports: The treatment of a child foot fetish American Journal of Psychotherapy XXX:2 316-326
Kunjukrishnan R., Pawlak A., Varan L R 1988 The clinical and forensic psychiatric issues of retifism Canadian Journal of Psychiatry 33 (9) 819-825
McGuire R Carlisle JM and Young BG 1965 Sexual deviations as conditioned behaviour: A hypothesis Behaviour Research and Therapy 2 185-190.
Rossi WA 1990a Foot and shoe fetishism: Part 1 Current Podiatric Medicine 19-23
Rossi WA 1990b Foot and shoe fetishism - Part II Current Podiatric Medicine Vol 39:10Oct 16-20
Rossi W 1997 Sex life of the foot and shoe Kreiger Press
von Krafft-Ebing E. 1932 Psychopathia Sexualis. NY: Physicians And Surgeons Books

Friday, May 4, 2018

Boot Loot




Melbourne police were surprised when they discovered a cache of stolen footwear. There was more than 2400 pairs of stolen shoes, from cowboy boots, work boots to sneakers. Most had been worn but others were brand new and still in their box. The constabulary had been investigating hundreds of reports of shoes stolen from across Melbourne's northern suburbs over six years when they discovered the boots hidden in a man’s house. Police allege the shoes were taken from the front doors of homes in the Mernda, Doreen, Watsonia North and Craigieburn areas of Melbourne, over the past six years. A man was later detained fpr the theft of the shoes. More recently, in a gracious endeavour to reunite the boots and shoes with their original owners, the ‘boot loot’ went on display . Apparently it took a team of three police officers almost three hours to place all of the shoes on display at a local hall.

Anyone who believes their shoes may be among the haul is encouraged to contact CrimeStoppers on 1800 333 000.

Footnote
Shoe thefts are not so uncommon as you might think and whilst these are mostly dismissed as aberrant behaviour by the judiciary, the behaviour can also be a symptom of paraphilia and may form part of the career pattern of a sex pest.

Monday, March 5, 2018

Foot Fetishism: Please explain?




Always been difficult to be sure, but experts' guessitimate is about one third of one percent of the male population between the ages of 17 and 55 who could be classified as foot fetishists. In the UK that would be about the equivalent to filling the new Wembley Stadium, 7 times over (estimated capacity 90,000). Being turned on by feet is not something men might have cause to complain about to their doctor; after all, you would not find many men complaining of getting an erection. So no one really knows the real number of foot lovers around.



Conventional opinion prefers the majority of foot fetishists are male but there are also some female footies too. Being partial to feet, legs and boomsa-daisy is not at all odd, but very common indeed among the general population. Finding feet attractive is not unnatural and most people who accept their partialism (pre or post coital), can relate this to an early childhood experience. This might be quite innocent such an infant crawling on the group and recognising adults by their shoes or stocking feet. When an early sexual experience involving feet shoes or legs takes place surprisingly, many individuals retain an attachment throughout their adult life as part of their love map. It is only when the foot or shoe (restifism), become more interesting than their owners and the preoccupation represents the sustained and complete object of desire, would fetishistic behaviour be categorised as paraphilia (abnormal sexual behaviour).



To non-fetishists, the idea of attraction to an inanimate object is quite ludicrous. An opinion not shared by the fetishist who endow their favourite properties on to the object as well as projecting their sexual longings, needs and feelings, and all for a variety of different reasons. Fetishism is not intrinsically logical and psychologists believe foot fetishists have blocked their natural means of sexual expression to seek a comfortable substitute on which to project their often exaggerated desire. The attraction of the foot cannot, except in very bizarre circumstances, be regarded as an object of sexual attraction but for those who admire it, the answer lies in its shape and intrinsic odour. General smallness and delicacy of the female foot is thought to be a major sexual attraction of the foot. Neat feet symbolise the basic concept of femininity, a certain vulnerability which appeals to men.



Elmer Batters was not a foot fetish but instead a talented photographer in the 1940s who became artistically preoccupied with feet and legs. His vision of a lady began at the tips of her toes and ran to the tops of her hose. His studies of legs feet and toes have become modern art collector’s pieces. In the 70s (tease era) he ran a small magazine called Leg Art.





References
Kroll E 1996 Elmer Batters Koln: Taschen

Reviewed 6/03/2018

The Men behind the Feet. Elmer Batters & Eric Stanton


Friday, November 24, 2017

F**k - Me Pumps: What's that all about?



Right from biblical times, sex workers were associated with the shoes they wore. It is documented working girls in ancient Egypt wore sandals which left the message "follow me" in the sand. The daughters of Israel were warned against wearing elevated sandals which caused them to walk in a suggestive manner. Needless to say whilst the elders did not approve many would appear to have enjoyed the charms of those who did.



In the sixteenth century many prostitutes wore high platform shoes to stand out in the street. Chopines were very popular with the fashion conscious in Venice but these women rarely if ever were seen in the street, preferring as they did, to be carried everywhere in sedan chairs. Occasionally courtesans (high class call girls) would step out in public but even this was rare. During these times, sex workers were required by law to dress in a manner which would identify their profession and many wore yellow about their person.



From the time of the French Revolution to the American Civil War respectable women wore low heeled pumps. Heels became associated with affluence and so men after the revolution soon dropped the peacock style.



In New Orleans about the same time it is documented the French prostitutes wearing high heeled boots became very popular with their young American clients. Historians believe the popularity of the high heeled call girls was the main reason for the introduction of shoe fashion industry to the US.



The bad girl image was sealed when in the thirties Hollywood discovered the psycho-sexual nature of shoes as a means to determine screen characterisation.



Bad girls wore high heeled pumps on screen and many Hollywood glamour girls like, Rita Hayworth, Marilyn Monroe and Shelly Winters were contracted to do the same, whenever in the public eye.



Shelly Winters in her biography recounts the origins of the Fuck-me pump. She and Marilyn were considered talentless actresses by the studio with their only attribute being physical. To enhance this the girls were contractually required to wear heel pumps and the term came not from their come hither appeal but the true exclamation when the footwear was taken off after a long day. In the shoe industry high heel pumps have been referred to a FM Pumps ever since.

Reference
Winters S (1980) Shelley: Also Known as Shirley William Morrow & Company







Right from biblical times, sex workers were associated with the shoes they wore. It is documented working girls in ancient Egypt wore sandals which left the message "follow me" in the sand. The daughters of Israel were warned against wearing elevated sandals which caused them to walk in a suggestive manner. Needless to say whilst the elders did not approve many would appear to have enjoyed the charms of those who did.



In the sixteenth century many prostitutes wore high platform shoes to stand out in the street. Chopines were very popular with the fashion conscious in Venice but these women rarely if ever were seen in the street, preferring as they did, to be carried everywhere in sedan chairs. Occasionally courtesans (high class call girls) would step out in public but even this was rare. During these times, sex workers were required by law to dress in a manner which would identify their profession and many wore yellow about their person.



From the time of the French Revolution to the American Civil War respectable women wore low heeled pumps. Heels became associated with affluence and so men after the revolution soon dropped the peacock style.



In New Orleans about the same time it is documented the French prostitutes wearing high heeled boots became very popular with their young American clients. Historians believe the popularity of the high heeled call girls was the main reason for the introduction of shoe fashion industry to the US.



The bad girl image was sealed when in the thirties Hollywood discovered the psycho-sexual nature of shoes as a means to determine screen characterisation.



Bad girls wore high heeled pumps on screen and many Hollywood glamour girls like, Rita Hayworth, Marilyn Monroe and Shelly Winters were contracted to do the same, whenever in the public eye.



Shelly Winters in her biography recounts the origins of the Fuck-me pump. She and Marilyn were considered talentless actresses by the studio with their only attribute being physical. To enhance this the girls were contractually required to wear heel pumps and the term came not from their come hither appeal but the true exclamation when the footwear was taken off after a long day. In the shoe industry high heel pumps have been referred to a FM Pumps ever since.

Reference
Winters S (1980) Shelley: Also Known as Shirley William Morrow & Company

Reviewed 4/03/2016